It's been a little while since I last posted something, but not a lot has happened in the older men category until recently. So Mr. Editor went M.I.A. for a little while, but now he is back. A few weeks ago Wednesday he was guest DJing at a tiny little nothing bar with his old records, which was pretty cool. I was invited so I stopped by to say hey and have a few beers. A few beers then took us to a more private venue where we proceeded to talk about our intentions with each other. Now I knew something was up because I wasn't really hearing much from him, and well, if I guy is interested, at any age, they do whatever they can to get your attention. I was skeptical because I thought he just wasn't interested, but it turns out he just doesn't want to date. He still wants to see me, and have sex, but not date. As you can imagine this is not what any girl wants to hear initially, and I wasn't sure what to think about it.
Like I mentioned before DO NOT sleep with an older man until there is commitment unless you want to be a booty call. I had to give Mr. Editor credit because at least he isn't playing games, just laid it all on the table, take it or leave it. I have been in a similar situation before so I was a little apprehensive about jumping on this bandwagon. At the same time there is a very strong sexual chemistry between the two of us that doesn't happen ever with me!
He wanted me to go home with him that night, but I was strong enough to say no. I needed time to think about this and figure out what I really want. I enjoy his company and I think the sex would be good. I am also at a point in my life where I am not ready for anything serious and hope I don't meet Mr. Right yet. At the same time I have been through this before and I didn't like the outcome. I say I can separate my feelings, but in the end I can't. I want to date many guys, but I don't have sex with any of them because there isn't a great enough reason to. If Mr. Editor and I made this a regular thing, I could have sex and date whomever I wanted. The issue that might come around though is that I spend too much energy and time on him and don't end up dating other guys, which happened last time.
I have already been over once now. I was too curious I had to test the waters. There has been no sex yet just foreplay, and I am still not too sure what to think about this. I feel that because of what happened last time I know the red flags and can get out before I get too deep. Nothing has clicked with me yet on what to do, so I am going to go with the flow and see what happens. I'm way too curious to not act on my desires. I play by the rules in everything else in my life. I need a little excitement to get me through. Plus, older men think your body is amazing no matter what your insecurities are. I had never thought of that before. Think about women who are older and don't keep up their bodies or have had kids. I am sure a young 20 something body looks like it is airbrushed. It definitely made me feel good when he went on and on about how great my ass was. Anyways, I think I will be learning some new lessons when it comes to the art of older men with this one. I just hope I am able to learn them and be able to walk away unwounded in the end.
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Monday, October 3, 2011
I'm just the Intern...
Alright so I didn't think I would be talking about this next man so soon, but he made a mistake and now he is in the blog. Ready for some back story? This next man is an Editor at a magazine. Not a really popular magazine but popular enough that when I was interning at ET/The Insider we interviewed them (that is actually how we met). It was my last day at the internship and I was out on a shoot at this magazine. We are going to call this one Mr. Editor because that is what he is. Mr. Editor was taken by me the moment he saw me. I could see it in his eyes. He even tried striking up a conversation with me...something no one ever does in his position. When I got back to the office I told some of advisers that looked over me at the internship and they persuaded me to add him on facebook. I did not really thinking anything of it and next thing I know I am going out on a rainy Tuesday night to meet this guy.
Our date was pretty casual, an after work drink. We were having great conversation and everything seemed pretty chill. Now here comes the doozy. As we go along in the date I find out he is 16 years older than me, has two kids, and is technically still married. I know, scary territory for someone my age. Surprisingly though this did not scare me at all. Think about it. If he is any half decent man he would never bring me around his kids, and he has been separated for several years. Neither one of us is looking for anything serious, just fun so the kids and being married part really isn't a big deal. Unfortunately though he had to cut the date short because of problems at home and I didn't hear from him for a whole week.
I thought for sure he was scared of me. Thinking what the hell is a man his age doing getting mixed up with someone my age. To my pleasant surprise however, he sent me a facebook message about a week later apologizing for the silence and that we should get together soon. Now we have attempted dates since then and nothing has come through. This is why he is going in the blog so soon. Oh and I forgot to mention he is the one that suggested starting this blog in the first place...I hope he never reads this then!
So last Friday night I tried going to the Electric Room, a swanky new club in the meatpacking district, with a friend. I told you about this in the last blog and how Mr. Apricots showed up. Anyways, Mr. Editor and I were suppose to check it out together, but I got tired of waiting around for him so my friend and I were going to check it out. Well if you remember I did not get in because of the snobby lady with the "list." So I texted Mr. Editor just to make sure he knew I was still alive and that I at least tried to go without him. To make a long story short I ended up texting him something questionable and he took it as I figured he would. Now all of sudden he is interested again and asked me out for last Tuesday night.
Tuesday comes around and mid day he sends me a text about some excuse with his kid's teacher and some meeting so he can't go out tonight. I really couldn't believe he was using that on me! So I told him it was unfortunate and that we should get together soon. Then he starts going back and forth and ends up asking me to come out to where he lives which is very far out in Brooklyn. I told him I would meet him half way and then he just wanted to rain-check saying he was too tired and would be a lousy date. My question is how would he not be a lousy date if I came to him but would be a lousy date if he had to come to me? Anyways, he is in the hot seat now and only has a chance or two more before I give up.
I am the type who is pretty patient with men but I don't like to be cancelled on all the time. I actually think this guy is pretty cool. I just hope he doesn't mess things up because he is taking advantage of the situation. A lot of guys like to do that because I am so laid back and young. They seem to think I am a call girl or something. Mr. Editor is getting himself in the danger zone and I would hate to have to write him off. I hope he pulls it together soon. This is a lesson that I am painfully learning with the art of older men...they like to think that their time is more important than yours. They establish this early on so it is hard to get mad at them later once you catch on to what they are doing. Always make yourself seem unavailable to a certain extent. It will keep them interested for longer and save you from headaches along the way.
Our date was pretty casual, an after work drink. We were having great conversation and everything seemed pretty chill. Now here comes the doozy. As we go along in the date I find out he is 16 years older than me, has two kids, and is technically still married. I know, scary territory for someone my age. Surprisingly though this did not scare me at all. Think about it. If he is any half decent man he would never bring me around his kids, and he has been separated for several years. Neither one of us is looking for anything serious, just fun so the kids and being married part really isn't a big deal. Unfortunately though he had to cut the date short because of problems at home and I didn't hear from him for a whole week.
I thought for sure he was scared of me. Thinking what the hell is a man his age doing getting mixed up with someone my age. To my pleasant surprise however, he sent me a facebook message about a week later apologizing for the silence and that we should get together soon. Now we have attempted dates since then and nothing has come through. This is why he is going in the blog so soon. Oh and I forgot to mention he is the one that suggested starting this blog in the first place...I hope he never reads this then!
So last Friday night I tried going to the Electric Room, a swanky new club in the meatpacking district, with a friend. I told you about this in the last blog and how Mr. Apricots showed up. Anyways, Mr. Editor and I were suppose to check it out together, but I got tired of waiting around for him so my friend and I were going to check it out. Well if you remember I did not get in because of the snobby lady with the "list." So I texted Mr. Editor just to make sure he knew I was still alive and that I at least tried to go without him. To make a long story short I ended up texting him something questionable and he took it as I figured he would. Now all of sudden he is interested again and asked me out for last Tuesday night.
Tuesday comes around and mid day he sends me a text about some excuse with his kid's teacher and some meeting so he can't go out tonight. I really couldn't believe he was using that on me! So I told him it was unfortunate and that we should get together soon. Then he starts going back and forth and ends up asking me to come out to where he lives which is very far out in Brooklyn. I told him I would meet him half way and then he just wanted to rain-check saying he was too tired and would be a lousy date. My question is how would he not be a lousy date if I came to him but would be a lousy date if he had to come to me? Anyways, he is in the hot seat now and only has a chance or two more before I give up.
I am the type who is pretty patient with men but I don't like to be cancelled on all the time. I actually think this guy is pretty cool. I just hope he doesn't mess things up because he is taking advantage of the situation. A lot of guys like to do that because I am so laid back and young. They seem to think I am a call girl or something. Mr. Editor is getting himself in the danger zone and I would hate to have to write him off. I hope he pulls it together soon. This is a lesson that I am painfully learning with the art of older men...they like to think that their time is more important than yours. They establish this early on so it is hard to get mad at them later once you catch on to what they are doing. Always make yourself seem unavailable to a certain extent. It will keep them interested for longer and save you from headaches along the way.
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