Older men are a curious kind to us younger females trying to find ourselves in this new, exciting, and scary world. They offer many things that seem great and even helpful to our well being. All of this is just the allure that they display to suck us in and then spit us out leaving us frustrated, disappointed, and a bit more cynical. Why do you think they come after us in the first place? Women their age have already been through this with the generation above them and are completely jaded. Now the important thing isn't to be afraid of older men it is to understand them and how they work. Once you know and understand the kind it is easier to manipulate the situation and feel more empowered after the ordeal is all said and done. There really is an art to this and in mastering it feelings won't be so hurt and life will go on. To start I would like to list two facts:
Fact #1:
Older men only want to sleep with you.
Now I know this is kind of harsh, but let's be realistic. Most likely if you are anything like me you are a beautiful, yes beautiful, college student who throws caution to the wind and wants to have a good time. Now we all can have a good time...but to have a great time involves knowing the right people and money. This is something older men have, they know they have, and will use to allure you in. Let them use this allure, just never sleep with them unless you never want to see them again, or are ok being a booty call. The minuet you sleep with them your power is gone and all power lies in their hands.
Fact #2 :
They don't see you as a potential life partner.
Once again this leads back to sex. These men will say and do anything to get you in bed. One of these things that is very common and appealing is leading you on to what could be a potential relationship. They are only trying to gain your trust so you will sleep with them. It may be intentional, it may not be. They could really think that this is something that they want, but as soon as you sleep with them the spell is broken and light is shown on what is front of them. Girls can be very mature. I myself come off much older than I really am which is deceiving at first, but I know there are still things that I have to learn and react differently to than a woman 10 years older than me would. Sex, in my experience, has brought out the ugly and older men don't have time for our nonsense. Like I said before, having sex isn't the end all, it could be a great time! Just be prepared for the aftershock and don't feel bad when it doesn't go the way we all hope it does.
I hope my harshness hasn't scared you off yet! Both of these facts in my experience are true, but there are always exceptions. I believe in never thinking you are the exception though until way down the road and it all seems to be working out. For example, my friend Anna has just started dating a guy who is 11 years older than us. This man we all met almost a year ago, Halloween. He has tried this whole year to get her to go on a date with him, and it wasn't until this last week, before she had just left to go to Paris abroad for the semester, that she finally gave in and went out with him. This man, so far, seems to be the exception and will keep you posted as time goes on.
Being the exception is a great thing but not being the exception can be great as well. I have learned so much about dating and patience in these last two years than I ever had so far. Older men are a lot of fun, and I have had some great times I wouldn't have had otherwise without giving them a try. Older men have connections and can introduce you to great people and things. Take advantage of this! Being a date is great for them because they have a hott little number to their side and great for you because you meet so many people that can help you in the future. Older men also like to stick around a little longer than younger men. They have learned patience and are willing to go the extra mile. If you hold out on sex long enough this can be very beneficial and possibly make them actually like you for the intelligent woman you are. The ones who aren't willing to wait around were the bad eggs anyway and at least you got some free meals out of the deal.
Throughout this blog I will share my experiences with older men that I date, and also live with....I live with a single older man as well, which has given me even more perspective into the mind of these suave stallions. I hope with sharing my experiences others can learn some things and share in the common interest of the art of older men.
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